Turning Year End Single Blues into Unwavering Trust in God

Vanessa A. Fleeton is founder of VAF Inspires, author and inspirational speaker. She is a native Washingtonian, but currently resides in Maryland. She lives to serve Christ and is also a serving member of her local church. Vanessa inspires women and men through speeches, seminars and products. Her first book, Pushing Through the Pain to Pursue Your Purpose was manifested from the emotional, physical and mental pain she experienced in her past. Her second book, Preparing Today for the Life You Want Tomorrow: 8 Steps to Pursue Your Dreams was birthed after she stepped out on faith and retired early at 46 from the federal government to pursue her dreams full-time. She's a women of purpose who has a heart to serve those who want to turn their pain into purpose or aspire to live the life of their dreams. She created VAF Apparel, a product line that spreads inspiration through phrases embellished in rhinestones. Vanessa was recognized as Entrepreneur of the Year, 2016 and Metro Phenomenal Woman, 2015. She has spoken at some of America's top organizations, churches, schools and non-profit organizations. As a Radio One, Inc. employee, Vanessa was a radio personality where she realized her love and gift of speaking.

The Lord will Reposition YOU to Bless YOU

Many women have experienced difficult patches along life’s journey, which shaped their life for better or for worst. When you think of the marriage vows “for better or for worst”, many people don’t see the latter as a happy moment. Regardless of the situation, the Lord is capable of repositioning you to bless you.

Not Settling

Chatting with Ms. Vanessa about Marriage & Divorce brought to light how important it is not to settle for less. She is a woman of strength who pushed passed the sting of Divorce, and now unashamedly shares her story with thousands of women. She was married for 5 years. Making marital decisions while being in a broken place, not knowing who you are and understanding your purpose in life, isn’t a healthy place. Ms. Vanessa shared how she did not want to divorce her ex-husband, but it occurred. The aftermath pushed her pursue the purpose in God. She remained consistent and faithful with her service in the church and to God. She is willing to wait until God give her what he has for her; she is not going to settle.

Shake off the Rejection

Rejection was something that Ms. Vanessa experienced before birth. She shared that her dad was in college at the time of her mother’s pregnancy, and he was not ready to have a baby so he was not interested in the pregnancy. She explained that she was born into rejection, which didn't make life easy for her growing up. Nevertheless, as an adult she learnt the importance of forgiving her parents and others who may have hurt her along this life journey. She tried her best to face her fears head on and corrected what she was able to, so that she can live a life of freedom from rejection. “If someone doesn’t want me, I won’t kill myself over that person; I would move on”. Ms. Vanessa doesn’t allow rejection to run her life, but makes the necessary changes so that she can live a healed and whole life.

Single & Happy

Ms. Vanessa feels happy when people speaks to her; at the same time, being able to share her story. She feed off of energy from others, so she is very grateful for opportunities that would present itself for her to share her story in this season. Ms. Vanessa is also grateful for God’s protection & good health.

Encouragement to the Single Woman

When asked what would be her encouragement to other women who are single? She mentioned the importance of being mindful of your friends during each season and what you allow into your ear gates. Trust God and allow him to supply all your needs. It is not easy to living a single life but you must depend on the Lord to help you through this season of your life.

Singleness & Waiting

Be patient while waiting for the right mate to come along. She’s been single for the last 14 years after her divorce. “She will believe in God during this season of singleness”. Ms. Vanessa believe in setting boundaries when dating. Since she lives alone, she doesn’t allow the opposite sex into her home; she would not allow men to move in with her.